I’m down in the dumps, I can’t pay my bills, and I didn’t get that new promotion. Why does everything bad happen to me? Why is everyone else so cheery and bright? They can all pay their bills, everyone else gets promoted and good things happen to them.

So you don’t feel good today, bad things happen all of the time to everyone, not just you. That’s life.

I just went and got my haircut and someone dented my car really bad. It was the most expensive hair cut I ever had. Yeah, I can’t pay my bills either but that is a whole other story. I can get angry and indulge in self destruction but why? Because some jack ass was clumsy and hit my car? Because I bought something instead of paying a bill?

I know what you’re feeling, that no one knows what you have been through.

Yeah, your right, no one knows your exact predicament. How could they? It only happened to you. Know this. I know as a fact someone within less than one mile of you this very second has it much worse.

Believe that.

Just like no one knows how you feel, for that same reason you can’t know how they feel. Not only are you projecting your life experiences on their external persona your pretending you know what they have been through. Everyone looks good on the outside that is what it is all about. We all try to look our best. If I wear Armani sunglasses and drive an Audi R8 you might think I am super wealthy and happy but really I am in debt and so far behind financially, I abuse, to get away from it all.

I am not alone and neither are you.

You’re not unique. Your experiences may be but the reasons are all still the same, only different circumstances. Stop comparing yourself to everyone else and learn how to exist in this world as yourself. Forget everyone else. You can’t see yourself through others eyes so stop trying. No matter what, I guarantee I can introduce you to someone with a bigger problem, horrible stories that will make even you cry and through that introduction you will feel connected. Just try me, email friend@socialrecovery.com.

Stop the “poor me” act, quit making excuses. You feel isolated because you subconsciously want to be alone. You are creating the environment you live in by your actions toward others. I learned I had done this and have changed the way others see me. I am not alone now because I changed myself.

You can stop feeling alone right now…

· Go to 90 meetings in 90 days, search online, there are others just like you

· Get a sponsor and talk to him or her daily, at least weekly

· Find a home group, ask your sponsor and friends

· Get phone numbers for friends to call and share your problems, talk to others at meetings

· Don’t pick up no matter what, call or visit your sponsor and new friends

Still feel alone? That is because you haven’t changed yet. You really think out of billions of people in this world you’re the only one with your type of problem. Ok, you asked for it…

· Here are some stories you can relate to

· Anonymous stories in your local area

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Did you find a story similar to your own? I did and I’m not alone anymore. I found others just like myself and they help me daily. I mean it, email me, friend@socialrecovery.com. I can connect you no matter your location and I can do it fast.

I am connected to a global network of recovering friends and you can be too. No matter what your situation or issues, I can help you to help yourself the way I did.

By the way, you and I are now friends.